A new survey done by Lending Tree found that 56% of Bridesmaids feel pressured to overspend money on wedding festivities. The average cost per person is $825 for showers and Bachelorette/ Bachelor parties. Thinking back to my own experiences I remember spending MORE than that, but the pros of the memories usually outweighed the pressures of the cost. In today's wedding climate more of my friends are eloping and creating their own special day over the traditions. According this the survey 19% of people have turned down being in a wedding strictly because of cost.